At
what time are women the most open to meeting a guy? When they least expect it.
Call it cynicism, being jaded, or general human suspicion, but women are most on
guard specifically when they know men are on the hunt. Of course, you can get
lucky on a Saturday night in a crowded downtown bar, but the odds are against you.
Unless you're particularly good-looking, stylish, funny or charming, you're not
going to "out-compete" the other guys in line. A classic
"meat-market" is really a poor place to come across a female because
it's a competitive situation. This means you'll have to impress the female more
than other guys do. If you're naturally an alpha-male, then go for it. You most
likely don't need tips though, and you're certainly not going to a bar to meet
your girls - they'll be coming to you.
For
the average guy, though, a non-competitive situation is best to attract women.
Time of day is probably the best gauge of a woman's receptiveness. Approaching
her before noon is possible, but somehow it doesn't work that well (in my
experience). Maybe it's because I get up late and I'm groggy. But, I do think a
working woman has a certain "getting things done" mentality in the
morning. This makes her impervious as she's concentrating on accomplishing her
daily tasks. Approaching a woman on the street too late can also be weird,
because she's fearful. If it's dark, the rule of thumb is let her go. You'll
have an uphill battle trying to convince her you're a legitimate guy. I find
the best hours are maybe two in the afternoon till twilight, which depending on
time of year and daylight's savings time, can be any time between five and
eight-thirty. Of course, the night constraint doesn't apply if you're saying hi
in a well-lit venue like a café or grocery store. Still, that golden
afternoon/dusk window seems to work best for meet and greets.
Time
of day also has a bearing on when you send texts. If you're planning on hooking
her that evening, send the text late afternoon or near rush hour. That way, she
is mentally already into "evening mode" and she's contemplating her
night. If she's open, maybe she's a bit desperate for something to do and will
more likely agree to plans on your terms. If she's already booked, then she'll
probably suggest another night. Avoid texting for plans too early in the day or
morning because a) it makes you look desperate and b) you become the default
plan for the night as she contemplates "better" plans with which to
displace you.
Lastly,
time of day figures into your first "date." Keep in mind that if you
want to sleep with a woman right off the bat, a lot of time with her may work
against you. Women will tell you that more time together is better because they
can "get to know you." They will claim to become more comfortable
with you, etc. Well, that's true, only if they really like you. If women find
you irresistible and want to spend lots of time with you, stop reading this
article. It isn't for you. The point is that of ten guys whom a woman agrees to
date, only one will ultimately meet her standards (whatever those are) and the
other nine will be thrown away. This is the wicked truth of the dating world.
Giving her lots of time to make this decision will usually work against you.
How
does this relate to "Time of Day"? Well, scheduling the first drink
or first meeting late at night compresses the timeline of the date. If you meet
at 9 or 10, she still gets her night with you, but you both are
time-constrained. She'll have to collapse her usual judgmental practices and
may have to hook up with you while she's still determining whether she likes
you or not. She'll probably go with it, women being the indecisive beasts they
are.
