Picking Up Women – 3 Crucial Mistakes You’re Making and Don’t Realize

Another group of girls… another try… same result.  If picking up women has been a real challenge lately bare with me – we’re going to be sorting out a few kinks.

Firstly, I really need to empathize this whole heartedly.  Keep trying.  Seriously.  The odds are stacked against us guys – we need to know that going into battle. 

That’s okay though, if we prepare ourselves then it’s just another day.  So what if only 2-5% will actually be intrigued beyond the state of general chit chat.  This makes it all the more crucial to realize that if the interaction isn’t working – MOVE ON.

I don’t care if she’s really good looking.  If she’s not interested we’re not wasting our time.  There are plenty more girls out there and you need to keep moving in order to maximize your odds of finding someone your compatible with.

That’s really what it’s about at the end of the day – maximizing your happiness and finding someone you enjoy spending time with.

I don’t care if you’ve slept with more women than Gene Simmons, if you’re not happy it won’t matter.

We are going to cover three crucial sticking points guys have and how to solve them.

1 You’re Hiding Your Intentions

She knows you’re approaching because you find her attractive and want to get to know her – talking about arbitrary stuff is only hurting you.  When you approach on the street and tell her she has an awesome energy and you just had to take a second to say hello to her – this is real.

This is powerful and true.  That’s what we want.  Let your intentions be known.  Yes you will not make as many friends, but you will save yourself a boat load of time trying to fly under the radar and hopefully attract her later. Check out Dating 101 (How to Attract Girls).

2 Stop Undercutting Yourself

I see so many guys doing this and it’s not attractive – not one bit.  What do I mean by undercutting themselves?  Ether explicitly or subtly they communicate that they are not worthy of her time.  This is a major downfall because if you don’t believe you’re worthy of her time, she won’t believe it ether.

Command respect when you talk.  Accept the fact that you’re an interesting person that gives value.  Accept the fact that she will enjoy spending time around you.  Don’t come from a place of scarcity – come from a place of abundance.

Value your time and if she doesn’t respect you then move on.  Hold yourself in high regard and only accept what you deserve.   

3 You’re Goin too FAST

This one’s kind of funny and important at the same time.  I am going to pose a question to try and help make my point.

If you knew that people valued what you had to say – would you blurt everything out in a single breath so people would hear you and not cut you off?

Probably not.

Too many guys are speaking and moving way too fast for their own good.  When you take time to express your thoughts you become more powerful.  Use pauses when you speak and don’t rush to get the words out.  Since you’re of the mindset that what you have to say is important and valuable she will wait.

This is especially true when you first meet someone knew.  The pauses may seem awkward but it’s all in your head.  When you slow down your words and your actions you’re less likely to stumble or stutter which is also a benefit.

To quickly summarize you want to express your intentions, not hide and be ashamed of them.  Women know you’re interested when you approach.  You’ll be seen as more confident if you let that be known.  Next, realize the value you have to give.  Stop the self deprecating bullshit.  Want to be taken seriously?  Take yourself seriously!  Lastly, slow down your movement and your rate of speech.  Fast and nervous or cool calm and collected – your choice?

Hope those 3 tips on how to pick up women helped.

To your success,