How To Get A Girls Number 

Most men will find that getting a woman’s phone number is an arduous task. They will not know when to ask, for example, or be fearful of risking rejection. Even after having got a girl’s number it can be difficult converting this into a second meeting or date.

Conversation Leading To A Number Close

One key mistake most men make is making small talk with a woman and then just suddenly asking for her number. This is definitely the wrong approach. A connection may (though normally is not) be made exchanging small talk with a girl but it takes a lot longer to do so. Instead, you must constantly steer the direction of the conversation towards your goal. Such a conversation will need to be based around building a connection with a girl and common interests you share.

Examples of questions aimed at establishing a connection with a girl or sharing common interest:

• What does she like to do when not at the office? How does she spend her free time?

• What foods does she like? What places does she like to go to in the evenings? Is she a party girl? Does she like the arts? What is something she would like to do but hasn’t yet (e.g. salsa classes)?

There are ways of asking questions that establish common interests and help build a connection. There are literally hundreds so come up with some tailored for you.

Taking two polarised examples, here is how to lead into a number close from a general conversation:

You: What places do you like to go in the evening?
Her: I like club/bar X.
You: Cool, its good there, have you ever been to club Y?
Her: Yes/No
You: Well me and some friends are going there on X day, you should come along.
Her: OK
You: Excellent, what’s your number*.

Or perhaps:

You: What do you like to do when you aren’t working?
Her: I like to go to the theatre/exhibitions/museums/ballet.
You: Have you been to that new show/exhibition etc.?
Her: No
You: Me neither, we should go
Her: OK
You: Great, give me your number*

*You never ask outright for a number, it should flow naturally, and the close should be assumed.

But how about if you cannot find a connection or common interest, do not have the time to, or do not have a conversation that bares any resemblance at all to the examples?

Then deploy the universal:

You: You’re cool/It was interesting talking to you, we should hang out sometime.
Her: Yeah.
You: *handing her your phone* What are you doing on Thursday? **

Most men will find that having got a girl’s number, nothing in the form of a second meeting or date materialises- in other words, the girls flakes.

How To Minimise ‘Flakeage’

Ensure that you enter your number in her phone too. Have a connection or something you can do together as described above. And most importantly: **arrange a date there and then. This means that she can be expecting your call and is more likely then to pick up if she has something to look forward to. The above tips should go some way to ensuring all good interactions end in solid number closes.