Nice Guys Vs Bad Boys
This week I'm going to do something a little bit unusual...
First, I'm going to ask you to consider something, then I'm going to give you some homework.
This week is all about ACTION!
Here's the thing I want you to consider first:
I was reading an article on AOL titled "What's Wrong With Nice Guys?"... here's a little quote from the article:
"...Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones? This notion sounds
an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that
men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since
women truly are conditioned to be "good girls," sometimes we feel
uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning "I must have him!"
feeling. That's why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the
object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth
Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery
tapes. "In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be 'okay,' it
has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with the rest
of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses,
worry-free," she says...."
Interesting, isn't it?
Now,
I personally disagree with the idea that women "seek out" Bad Boys
because they need somewhere to "project their guilty lust"... and I
disagree with the idea that there's something "wrong" with the fact
that women are attracted to Bad Boys...
But the point is
that the "mainstream" psychology and behavior world is starting to
accept the idea that women are ATTRACTED to "Bad Boys".
It
will probably be another ten years before anyone with a degree puts two
and two together and says, "Hey, maybe women feel ATTRACTION towards
Bad Boys for natural, evolutionary reasons, and that's why Bad Boys are
considered "sexy"...
Hell, maybe I should say it... Oh wait, I already did..
Whatever.
Point
is, there's something to the idea that woman don't feel that powerful
GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for "nice" guys who chase after them and kiss up
to them
Women do, on the other hand, feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for BAD BOYS.
Of course, I don't believe that you MUST be a jerk, or abuse women in
order to make them feel attracted to you. There's a much better way...
OK...now for THE HOMEWORK...
Here's what I want you to do...
If you own my eBook "Double Your Dating ", go to chapter 4, and read it again.
If
you own my Advanced Series, I'd like you to go to Day 2, Section 1, and
review again. (If you don't own these yet, then you need to get them
immediately! You're cheating yourself if you don't invest in YOURSELF
in this area... really.)
Now, I want you to do something CONSCIOUSLY this week.
I
want you to do the following with the next 5 women that you talk to
over the next few days... (these should be women that you would be
interested in dating):
1) Smile all the time.
2) Be very nice, cordial, and friendly. Use no sarcasm, and don't tease.
3) Act as if you really "like" the woman you're talking to... and as if you're "interested" in her.
4) Give her lots of compliments.
5) Optional: Politely say, "You probably have a boyfriend, right? Can I take you out sometime?"
Pay careful attention, and notice how the women respond to you.
Now, I want you to try something different with the NEXT 5 women you talk to...
1) Don't smile very often.
2)
Pretend that you've known her for 20 years, and that you're TOO
comfortable around her. Tease her for something that no one teases her
about... like the way she dresses, etc.
3) Pretend that
she's interested in YOU, and has been pursuing YOU, and that you're
resisting her. Make jokes about it and say things like, "I just don't
think things are going to work out between us".
4) Give her
NO compliments of any kind. If she gives you any say, "That's a cheesy
pick up line. Can't you think of something more original?"
5) Optional: Say, "Hey, do you have email? Good. Write it down here..."
...and pay attention to the difference.
If you really "play it up", you'll notice a HUGE difference between the first five women you talk to and the next five.
During the first set of five, when you're being a "Nice Wuss", you'll
see the looks on the women's faces that say, "Oh no. Another guy who
"likes" me. How can I get rid of him politely?..."
During
the SECOND set of five, you'll see the women opening their mouths with
the "half smile, half oh-no-you-didn't-just-say-that" look. You'll feel
a TENSION in the air. You'll notice that some of the women will
actually look at you as if they can't believe what they're hearing.
If
you're particularly sharp and funny, you might just have one or two of
them say, "I like you... we have to hang out sometime" within the first
few minutes of the conversation. By the way, you will NEVER hear that
when you're playing the "Nice Wuss".
(SIDE NOTE: I once
went out with some friends and while taking pictures of them, I
overheard this girl talking to her friend. I took what she and her
friend were talking about and I teased her about it... And within no
more than 60 seconds the girl was saying, "Ohmygod, I like you! We need
to hang out sometime..." - Really.)
Do your homework! And have FUN while you're at it.
Alright now. If you haven't downloaded your copy of my eBook , and ordered your ZERO RISK copy of my Advanced Series, then get to it...
You'll
learn more in a few hours of studying my materials than most guys will
learn in their whole LIVES about how to attract women.
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And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David DeAngelo
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